Hi I'm Kirarin! ✨
A few years ago I used to be a ppl pleaser with no confidence & always heavily relied on the validation of others.
I was overly apologetic, terrified of rejection, & was always doing whatever it took to get ppl to like me. ૮₍ ˃ ⤙ ˂ ₎ა
(the complete OPPOSITE of a gal TBH orz)
Throughout the past year, I've started doing some stuff that gave me a SUPER boost in my confidence! ✨
Me Before:
Me NOW:
If u wanna know how I did it & how u can also become so in love with yourself that u r a force to be reckoned with, then keep reading! .𖥔 ݁ ˖ ✦ ‧₊˚ ⋅
Here's some things that I've done:
1. Find a style that resonates with you & wear it regardless of what others would think.
A lot of you are probably here because you're into alternative fashion styles like Gyaru that are bold & rebellious. Usually because we're drawn to the in your face confidence that Gals have & want to be that confident ourselves!
Find a style you're interested in that you've always wanted to do, and try it regardless of what others would think. Take the chance & look the way u always wanted to!
2. Don't just wear the clothes, really embody the style.
Embody what it means to be Gyaru.
Embody what it means to be a baddie.
Embody what it means to be punk . to over the top cute.
or to be a Clean Girl if that's ur bread & butter! XD
Really hone in on WHY the style speaks to u. If the main aspect u like about the style is that it's rebellious then start doing more things that make you feel more rebellious.
If the aspect you like about the style is that it's sexy then start doing more things that make you feel sexy.
At the end of the day if u don't feel like a badass ur definitely not gonna look like one. (≧∀≦)
3. Start doing things that you really WANT to do, especially the things you wouldn't normally do.
Don't let your old identity or old beliefs about yourself or what others have told u about yourself hold u back from living the kind of life and being the kind of person u want to be now! ✨
Good news!
u don't owe anything to the ppl from ur past. Like u don't have to give a flying fuck what Chelsea who bullied u in highschool is gonna think. (Cut her off first of all.😂 Why do u still have these hoes added?)
u have the freedom to completely reinvent yourself whenever you want & how ever many times u want to.
It's going to feel scary at first to do things outside of your comfy zone, but the more u do it the less scary it'll feel & the more natural it'll become. ~
In my last video I talk about how to realistically achieve goals & build skills. This is exactly like that. think of this like building a skill! lol
The focus is to start doing stuff that u really WANT to do that make u happy, not what u THINK others want u to do. ૮₍ ˃ ⤙ ˂ ₎ა
4. Start prioritizing what you have to say. Your feelings matter and your words have value.
ALWAYS say what's on your mind. (TBH I'm still kinda getting used to this one lmao)
A lot of the time people want to be selfless & they go:
"if I say this it might hurt this person's feelings"
the biggest way to get over that is by asking yourself:
"but will staying silent hurt me more?".
u have to be ur top priority. ur feelings are precious. ୨୧
People who actually care about u care what u have to say & how they make u feel. Period.
And actually, ur more kind when ur honest. 🤷🏾♀️ YOLO
if ur really scared about the outcome, chances are if u tell them how u feel they'll probably be like
"why didn't u just say that before?" Lolol
And now we get into the stuff that's not-so-surface level. LOL
These next steps are gonna be a littleeee more tricky, but will definitely be worth it!
5. Fill your cup first. (Then you can love others more fully)
Start doing everything with yourself & ur happiness in mind first.
Once ur able to effectively prioritize yourself and ur own needs and ur own wants, and really get to know yourself deeply, then u can move to more effectively serving the needs of others.
Ironically u become less self-centered by becoming really self-centered first. XD
I've learned a lot about how people work by trying harder to learn and understand how I work.
Once you've solved ur own problems, u become more empathetic towards other people and can help them solve their problems. This is because chances are, their problems are likely something that you've also been through and had to overcome yourself. ᕦ(ò_ó)ᕤ
6. Completely Change your self talk.
It can be hard not to self depreciate lol but breaking that cycle really does feel life-changing.
Write down a short list of like 3-5 positive affirmations about yourself in ur notes app y'know, stuff like:
- "I am amazing"
- "I am capable"
- "I believe in myself"
& then read em every morning as soon as u wake up! TBH ur already gonna be on ur phone first thing in the morning, so why start ur day with shitty social media stuff that makes u feel like garbo, when instead u can start with a bunch of positive stuff.
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Read ur affirmations everyday & eventually you'll find yourself naturally thinking & believing them automatically.
7. Surround yourself with ppl who absolutely shower u with LOVE & appreciation
Ur important and ur time is important. U have to be really discerning about who u let in your circle.
Cut out anyone who's toxic or makes u feel like garbo. Lol
This is the hardest step because you're going to feel lonely for a while, but I promise it's going to be the most worth it!
As I said before, I used to be someone who was addicted to validation from others, so I collected a lot of surface level friendships but then over time I noticed they didn't genuinely care about me. Lol and sometimes whenever I'd tell them about a new goal or something they'd doubt me or hit me with the "are u sure?" Red flag. 🚩🚩
U gotta surround yourself with ppl who love u, support u, and respect u so much that there's no room for self doubt! ᕙ( •̀ ᗜ •́ )ᕗ
Here's a good indication if someone deserves to be in your circle:
- how do u feel when you're with them vs when you're alone?
- do u feel energized & confident when ur alone, but then when ur around them u r low energy or even frustrated?
You're going to eventually find much higher quality & supportive friends, so if u wanna build confidence for the long term, definitely don't skip this step!
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I hope u guys enjoyed my first blog post! I hope you find it helpful on ur journey!
Check out my YouTube video on this topic:
Also! I made some knowledge databases about Gyaru fashion so feel free to check em out! :D
-The History of Gyaru Fashion:
-The Basics of Gyaru Makeup (under construction):
Thanks for reading & I'll see u guys next time! ✨
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